What Still Make This So Hard...

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Losing your husband is difficult, losing your husband to COVID is even harder for several reasons.  

1.  I couldn't see Martin the entire time he was in the hospital. That means for 26 days I never got to visit him, hold his hand, be by his side, or say goodbye.  The last time I saw him he was being wheeled out of our home on a stretcher.  To this day this still is so painful and breaks my heart.

2.  It is hard to hear on a daily basis by many that COVID isn't real.  COVID is very real to me and my two little ones.  I don't have my husband and they no longer have their Papa because of COVID.  This is very real, people are dying everyday from this virus.  So please don't say this isn't real.  

3.  It is also hard to hear people say that because a person was young and didn't make it means they must have had underlying health issues.  Martin was healthy and COVID ravaged his body until his body could no longer take it. He was healthy and young, and no he didn't have any underlying health issues. 

4.  Hearing people say "I wish they wouldn't say he died from COVID he died for another reason."   Yes, Martin died from complications from COVID.  But had Martin never contracted COVID he wouldn't have had any of those complications that ultimately claimed his life.  

5.  People refusing to wear a mask.  I just don't understand this.  Martin unfortunately caught COVID on the early side when a lot less was known about the virus.  Now we know so much more than we did then.  Please help save lives so no other family has to endure this type of heartache.  

I know this virus is real, I know this virus doesn't discriminate, I know this virus has turned my world upside down, and I know losing Martin is much more challenging because of what I hear and see written about COVID.  Losing someone you love unconditionally is absolutely devastating.  Don't get me wrong, any loss of a loved one is extremely challenging, but I just feel there is an extra layer of grief losing someone to COVID.  In the past three months I have endured so much pain and heartache, and I truly don't want anyone else to have to experience what I have gone through, what so many others have gone through because of this virus.   

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