Happy Birthday in Heaven My Love

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 My Love,

    Today would have been your 46th birthday.  Today is also the second birthday we are celebrating  without you here with us.  At times it still seems so unreal that 2 years ago was the last birthday you would ever celebrate with us.  I still remember that day perfectly.  You took the day off (so glad you did) we spent quality time together with Graeme while Elsie went to daycare.  We picked her up early and I can still remember her excitement when she saw both of us walk into her classroom with Graeme. We went to the park because there was no other place you would rather be with your family.  You did all the Daddy things you had always dreamed about...helping Elsie get up to the slide, watching her be brave and slide down the big slide, pushing both Elsie and Graeme on the swings with such pride and happiness on your face.  You had that smile that I fell in love with, the one that made your eyes light up, that smile that I will never forget.  That day was also the day I snapped my favorite picture of the three of you.  The one you where you are holding Graeme and Elsie with the pond behind you, the one that I can see how much you loved being a Papa, the one that takes me back to that day and sometimes brings me to tears and sometimes puts the biggest smile on my face, and the one that both Elsie and Graeme love to look at, point to, and get excited about because they see their amazing Papa, who they both love and miss so much.  My love, your last birthday with us was just so perfect, and as I look at the videos and pictures that we both captured that day, I know that you had one of your best birthdays ever, and I am so glad that we were able to make it so incredibly special.  

I always want to honor you the best way I can on your special day, so yesterday (because the weather was beautiful I did just that).  I took Elsie and Graeme to the park, I helped them climb up to get to the slide, I watched them both be brave and go down the big slide(Graeme went so fast he flew off and got a little dirty but that didn't stop him), I pushed both of them on the swings and listened to them laugh and giggle and saw them smile those amazing happy smiles they both have, I watched them run around the park and could envision you there chasing them and being silly with them, and we also threw sticks in the pond(Not Pooh sticks because there wasn't a bridge, but they watched them float downstream and were amazed and kept doing it)  I know you were looking down on us, smiling,  and LOVING every moment.  


Happy Birthday in Heaven My Love.  Just know we miss you everyday and I'll  love you NFA.


Love,

Pamela










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