The Bravest Thing You Will Ever Do Is Love Again

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Over 18 months ago my heart was shattered into a million pieces when I lost Martin. Our life was suddenly over and my new life quickly began.  It took awhile for me to pick up all the pieces, but I did.  I decided that in life I would always choose joy because that is how Martin would want me to live my life with Elsie and Graeme.  Martin always told me that Tomorrow isn’t promised, and because he believed in that so deeply he once told me that if anything ever happened to him, he would want me to be happy and find love again.  Martin will always have a huge place in my heart and I will always love him Now Forever Always (NFA).  Several months ago I decided that I was ready to open my heart and find love again.  Let me just say that after going through the worst possible pain and heartache when I lost Martin, being ready to open my heart to all the vulnerabilities that come with loving someone was scary.  But I knew if I found the right person it would be totally worth it.  I want to take a moment to thank the person that has made me feel completely safe to love again.

Joe, from the moment we met, you have changed my life for the better.  I am so grateful and blessed that you are a part of my life.  You have made my heart happy again in a way that I thought might not be possible. You make me laugh and smile and you have also brought out so much more joy in my life.  You have been so supportive and understanding when I am having a rough moment, and that truly means so much to me.  You have been so accepting and awesome about all my advocacy work which is a huge and very important part of my life.   You listen to me when I talk about Martin and the fact you bring him up too, is truly amazing.   You have been so patient with me as I figure out us, and how to balance everything going on in my life.  You have shown me what a great team we are, and have helped me out when I have needed it most.  You have been so amazing with Elsie and Graeme, they truly adore you and love spending time with you and Tyler.   I truly love that from the start you told me that you will never be a replacement for their Papa, but you will always be there for them, and you have been.  Most of all you are the person that showed me that it was ok to be vulnerable and love again. You make me feel safe and so incredibly loved each and every day. You truly are one of the bravest people I know  because loving a widow is not easy, but you truly have done it so amazingly well.  Thank you for being you and loving me the way that you do. I love you today, tomorrow and always. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️







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  1. Joseph SchraderNovember 17, 2021 at 5:22 PM

    I love you more than words can ever explain or describe Pamela! I love you to the moon and back a trillion times baby!

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